When planning your fairytale wedding, your mind is probably spinning with all the details you feel like you have to get right. You may be thinking what colors do we want to include, what flowers do we like, what flavor should the cake be, and how the heck do you write your own vows? Today I’m going to help you make some magic with that last detail: writing your own vows. A lot of couples opt to write their own vows as it allows them to make their ceremony more personal and add a more intimate touch to their wedding vows, but sometimes trying to find the words to express to your soulmate how you feel doesn’t come easy and that’s okay (and totally normal!!).
The best advice I can offer when it comes to writing your own vows is to start thinking about them sooner than later. While it is a detail that tends to get put on the back burner, it’s important to take some time during the months leading up to your wedding and think deeply about your relationship and what you want to say about it. If you wait until a few nights before your ceremony to start jotting down word vomit, there’s a good chance the vows aren’t going to be exactly how you envisioned (note: this does work for some and if that’s how you roll by all means do it up!).
Think about any personal anecdotes you may want to include. What was a moment in your relationship that stands out to you? Think back on personal anecdotes or memories that are meaningful only to the two of you, or details from an especially romantic date or moment (ie. when you realized you were in love, when you got engaged, an act of kindness).
Draw inspiration from others. Now I know this sounds weird because your vows are personal to you, but if you don’t know where to begin with your vows, getting inspiration from people’s weddings helps! This will give you a better idea of what you want to write and what kind of things other people love hearing from their partners. Do a quick google search for some vows people used, check out this article from the knot, or my personal favorite, make some popcorn and tear up watching random people’s wedding videos.
Once you have a draft together, take some time away from it for a bit then re-read them out loud to yourself and make any edits you see fit. Remember, your vows don’t have to write an epic poem or a love letter — just say what’s in your heart and they’ll be damn good.
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